Friday, July 23, 2010

True Friendship

"In the End, we will remember not the words of our enemies but the silence of our friends." Martin Luther King, Jr

 My older sister and I were separated for a long time. Our parents tried hard to keep us apart... It didn't work...we found each other three years ago and somehow....became best friends. 

At first...we didn't trust...but we both wanted the connection. We pushed past the distrust...past our own needs....even past hurt feelings at times.

We're different her and I... our likes, how we do things...how we move in the world.....yet in other ways....we're the same. - Our pain....the way we look at life....the effects the abuse had on us....our desire to live our best lives.  

Somehow we figured out......to always keep a hand extended out to each other...never closing the door because of hurt feelings....or misunderstandings or differences. We've been in each other's corner... encouraging... supporting....believing the best...accepting each other completely. And always with a hand extended out....never taking it away....never closing the door.....never leaving the other with unresolved hurt feelings...never silent...never ignoring the other. That has made the difference. 

I fought so hard to be free....alone...with friends dying...or leaving...or moving on.  For the first two years...I was afraid my sister's words weren't real....that she would leave...close the door....move on.. She hasn't and she told me she will never go away. I believe her...And I vow that to her too.



25 comments:

Paula said...

I am so happy for the two of you. I know how hard it is to trust. Still struggle to trust myself most of the time. In future I wont be alone anymore in my struggle as I accepted my partners proposal. I vow I wont leave him - a vow which is more worth than any word the peace judge can make me mumble.

Just Be Real said...

A precious post dear one. I am so happy for your reconnection with your sister. Blessings as always you are such an encourager, you have no idea! ((((Sarah))))

Donetta said...

you are blessed to have developed such a friendship

Terri Tiffany said...

How awesome that you reconnected! That would be a story in itself I think)

MTJ said...

Hi Sarah,

I share the same commitment with my brothers (no sisters). Though we remain geographically distant, we stay in touch and talk frequently.

Family is important to me and I feel it's my responsibility to reach out and connect with family members where ever they live.

I'm happy for the shared love between you and your sister.

Blessings.

MTJ

inspiredword said...

Its always nice for our sblings to be real friends. Nice one

Yet said...

Sisterhood is a powerful thing!!

Catherine said...

I'm so glad you have your sister and that your relationship is strong.

Love, Catherine

NOS said...

It's great that you and your sister are close. I know my middle sister is my best friend too. But I think your relationship is especially strong because you have both gone through so much together. I'm glad you have someone like that in your life.

Wishing you well,
NOS

steveroni said...

This sounds like a commitment which many envy. If you always remember to be grateful, humble, and unselfish, this relationship will grwo beautiful way past your wildest dreams

God bless you both.

My "55" is HERE

Dianne said...

a love between sisters is a precious thing--you are blessed in this relationship and I am so happy for you!

Being Me said...

What you have is beautiful, any relationship takes time to nourish, hope you both find love and peace in and through each other.

Denise said...

God forever bless you and your dear sister, love you.

Crown of Beauty said...

Dear Nikki,
I read this post and the one before it, as well as your latest one on your Gentle Recovery blog.

Something tugs at my heart when I read your words.

God is so good to help you reconnect with your sister.

And yes, what you wrote about freedom in not being totally free, that is soooooo true dear friend.

We are all in process and in transition.

My heart brims over with ... I don't know what it is, but I think they are tears... if the heart can shed tears... for your journey and what you are discovering. Tears of joy, for the parts that are healed, and yet, I also feel sadness. Sadness is always, will always be part of our human journey.

I'm with you. Thank you for sharing so deeply and for touching my heart.

Much love
Lidj

dulce said...

This is great. Having a sister as a friend. I do keep mine so near... and yes it's such a blessing!
:)

Deborah Ann said...

Blood is truly thicker than water. I was blessed with 5 sisters, and they have never turned away from me. Sisters are a blessing from heaven...

imaginenamaste said...

your write so honest and beautiful. that sounds like an amazing relationship you guys have!
thank you for your comments on my blog :-) you are awesome.

Jennifer said...

Very similar to my own life as my sister and I are connected, having been disconnected for almost all of our lives.

This post reminds me of what I'm reading now in 1 Samuel about the love of David and Jonathan. LOVE IS VERY POWERFUL and Jonathan was proof that we should not be silent, the fate of our friends/family sometimes relies upon our voice.

Bless you!

Karen said...

This was beautiful...so very happy that you have such a great relationship with your sis....

Paula said...

Dear One, returned to give you a big warm hug!

Natasha said...

I am so happy that you and your sister are friends and are so close. That is so very very important!

Blessings and best wishes,
Natasha.

Mary said...

so glad you have her - so glad she has you. I love what you said about always keeping a hand extended out to each other.

Blessings sweet one!!

Heckety said...

Its wonderful that you have found your sister and are building such a strong friendship/ relationship with her. Sisters should be forever- mine are, and I hope my girls are to each other too. And you can give that gift to your children too- its really truly a gift worth having.

Nelgin said...

Wow! great...its nice to know that you and your sister meet again. So proud of you coz you humble down yourself and accept your dear sister into your heart.I know its not that easy to trust again.But you did try to show it to her.Continue to show kindness. So happy for you.

A girl needs 2 Talk said...

This is powerful stuff. I want to read you all the time. You're amazing! God bless you. :)